Wednesday, February 14, 2007

Cynical Valentine's Day Post

I'm not a fan of this particular holiday.  While I don't go as far as a full on boycott, I also don't do much else then tell my husband "I love you."  Flowers are not allowed in my home today.  I might make him a card, but usually I just make him a favorite food.  Eating out is also not allowed.  He bought me some nitrate free jerky and rented me The Sentinel, since I have the hots for Keifer. But that's nothing unusual, he usually brings me treats every week.

I hate pink.  I walk around the store this time of year and feel like I'm in Pepto Bismol hell.  I really can't blame the marketing companies for cashing in on our romantic inclinations, it's a $13 billion holiday.  I've seen very effective ads that would lead anyone to buy impressive gifts, usually to impress people you aren't even giving it to. "*gasp* he went to Jared!"  And the kids are in on it too.  If it's not enough they're always begging you for action figures of their favorite cartoon, now you have to buy them Valentine cards of Yugi-oh and candy (and be sure to get the good stuff so your kid is popular) so they can learn that brand name is way better than handmade.

Bottom line, I see little merit such an overtly commercial holiday.  People (usually men) aren't judged by who they are, but how much they spend on their sweetie.  It's generally a very one-sided holiday.  Even if you adore the person in your life, you are made to feel inadequate unless you spend obscene amounts of money on flowers, a card, dinner, and jewelry, which the industry will take full advantage of.  It's no longer enough to say "I love you" and mean it.  Romance is now defined by how much monetary value you can place on your relationship.

So Cupid, you can keep your tasteless sugar cookies and cliche roses.  For me it's just another day I tell my husband I love him.


  1. Yay! /agree whole heartedly
    The current longest married couple in England (79 years) were asked how they did it. They responded with make a little room every day for romance not just a couple times a year.

  2. All I have to say is my sister-in-law brought over valentine's day sugar cookies. Best. Cookies. EVER. Apparently her secret is almond extract. Man, were those good. Almost made me want to celebrate the holiday.

  3. I don't care about the holiday either. This other couple that we spend a lot of time with seem to invite us out every Valentines though, and that makes me want to go out. Not because of the holiday, just because I'm bored at home. This year, we're too poor so right now they are out eating and we are waiting here for them to come over after. HA

  4. I agree with what you said, I however despite my best efforts like the holiday. I think it's because it was one of the few times a year when I was a kid that I got candy! Pudgy kids like candy.

    Funny thing is, when I was married to my ex, something ALWAYS happened to the Car on Valentines. I think it was a sign. ;-)

  5. Of course it's a gimmick! The main thing I don't like about it is that it makes those who are lonely feel bad.

    One of the highlights of our day was that we did homemade valentines with "love letters" written in them. and we plan to do that every year so I can scrapbook those for Micah to read throughout the years. I'm all about love letters and verbal expressions of appreciation, as you can see (and razzed me about! hehe...) in my blog, though my journalings there are only a SMALL portion of what my husband and I write each other. My philosophy is that you just can't predict what will happen to those you love (as seen in the news on a DAILY basis, such as Trolley Square), so I personally enjoy the written expressions, along with all the other forms, because those don't change with your memory as time goes by.

    Yeah, I don't want to recieve or give material gifts on a day meant to celebrate love for one another... I want the love letters, thank you!

  6. But I have to admit that I'm still a huge fan of sugar cookies.